You have a problem. Someone or something is causing you headaches, making you crazy, and ruining your world. You have the ability to do something about it, and that's a wonderful thing. You are fed up and very angry, ready to make changes. That is not a wonderful thing. (Well, the changes could be good, but the anger will make them less effective.)

Anger might not be avoidable, but find a way to let it subside before you move into the 'doing something about it' phase of the situation. Cool down, walk away, and process. Any decisions you make during your 'angry time' will likely be tainted and less on-target for what you really want to accomplish.

If you're just looking to lash out, then go ahead and act when angry. If you're looking for the best long-term solution for the source of your anger, cool down and put some anger-free thought into it. Not only will you end up in a better place, but you'll gain some well deserved respect that the 'angry' people never seem to get.

Of course, the best way to go is to find a way to restrict the world's access to your 'angry button' in the first place, but hey, one thing at a time.

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