How To Find Your Passion, Shown by Paul’s Wife [VIDEO, PICTURES]
In my quest for a happy life, I have been instructed by endless mentors, gurus and self help outlets to 'follow my passion'.
No problem. I feel lucky that I have been able to do that at work and play for the past 15 years.
Other people, upon hearing this advice think, 'Ok...but I don't know what I'm passionate about.'
It's discouraging, and sometimes makes them feel worse they would follow their passion if they only knew what that passion was!
Such was the experience of my wife, Sarah. In one winter a few years ago, she realized she was going to work in the dark and getting off work in the dark. She hated her job, wasn't making much money, and though she didn't know what her passion was, she knew it wasn't that.
It became a sort of a 'bottom'. It's that point some us of hit when we know we have to make some changes. So, she started a blog called Reaching For Bliss.
The streets outside were beginning to grow colder and darker as I came to the realization that I had allowed my life to become dull and boring which made me dull and boring too, right? Really?! Is this what this unexpected moment of introspection was telling me? Well this wasn’t nearly as enjoyable an afternoon as I thought it was going to be.
So what is that I did want out of my life? My existence was adequate but I felt no forward motion. I craved experiences, joy and a richness in my life that I wouldn’t be able to not write about it in my journal. I wanted to look back through my journals and remember how many interesting things I had done, how many boundaries I had pushed and deep hearty laughs I had laughed. I wanted to experience exhilaration, joy, fear, wonder, accomplishment, abundance – I wanted to achieve bliss.
Through it, she hopes to combine her love for writing with her quest to not only find, but also chase and enjoy her passions. A year or so later, I can confirm that her looking for passions has helped her find some...and eliminate others. She quit all the jobs she hated. She's fired clients that were taking up to much time for too little money. She has hired others that keep increasing her pay. She has gone on more trips than ever before. Yesterday we bought her a road bicycle, and this weekend she is hosting her first party for her own business that distributes Mila, a premium blend chia seed about which I have written before.
I don't know who said it first, but I heard it come from Kevin Trudeau's in his "Your Wish Is Your Command" audio series.
If you want things in your life to change, you have to change things in your life.
Watching her makes change for the better is awesome. It turns me on. The last thing I want to see is someone in my life who is unhappy. It's not good for them and it's not good for our relationship.
Seeing her gather her courage, face her fears and grow is GREAT for our relationship, because it's great for her. She's doing it for herself, and the affect it has on me and us comes naturally.
The moment she said this, she immediately started to become happier.
We only live once.
At that moment I decided that I was going to achieve my life of bliss by becoming fully available to the experience of life. I’m going to push my own boundaries, demand fulfillment, experience the freshness of desire and accomplishment pulsing through me while creating the life and that I truly want and the person that I really am. I’m going to document everything that I do, think and achieve and everything that inspires and encourages me along the way.
I automatically sprang up from the couch where I had been planted for the past two days. After the initial head rush, I feel a renewed sense of purpose. I’m going to be and do and have. And I’m going to start by taking down this dry, brown Christmas tree…and brush my teeth.
Join me as I embark on my quest for bliss.
I think it's important to note that she hasn't done it on her own. She (and I) have sought mentors, taken classes, read books, watched videos, created mantras, written chief aims and have become no less than obsessed with finding and following our passions.
At first it can be difficult. It takes about a thousand times more energy to get a plane off the ground than it does to make it continue to fly through the air. Growth brings discomfort, and we've had to fight fear (F-alse E-vidence A-ppearing R-eal) every step of the way. I wouldn't change one bit of it.
So, do you know what your passion is?